WDIMTBD: A Dom's Most Important Job

This was originally posted from What does it mean to be Dominant? What he describes moved me so greatly that I had to share it.

"There are many aspects of being a Dominant that are important. Leadership skills are good to have, creativity is always nice, solid abilities with a variety of implements not found in daily life or taught in high school gym class are useful, as is a good sense of anatomy and safety. However I believe the most important skill is the ability to guide her to submit.  

Even 24/7 and wearing a collar it is not a given, at least not to me. Every year, every month, every week, every day, every minute, between every stroke, she must choose to submit and I must help her. There in lies the Dominant's power. With out that consent you are just another arrogant and aggressive jerk who thinks he is entitled to everything. With consent though you are a new person, a leader, a rock or more importantly her rock. 

You would think that gaining her consent over an over again would be about her and in part it is. Surprisingly though it is mostly about you and this is the best part, the things you must do for her, the things you must be for her will make you a better you. You will need to say kind words, you will need to be empathetic, you will have to be honest and forthright. It would be a good idea if you developed some self control, perhaps some honour, remember if you cannot contain your emotions with a waiter or a little league coach then how will you with her when the stakes are much higher. You will need to be decisive and to lead, skills that will not only help her but you in the world. 

Every time she says yes though you become a little bit stronger and being the best you becomes a little easier. All the time when out in the world you will be presented with ways to practice those things she loves most about you. Look for them and act upon them, build yourself up and she will follow again and again and again."